What does it mean to be in flow? How do I get into flow?
Flow is allowing yourself and the energy or happenings around you to be cooperative. It is acknowledging everything as it is now, knowing you are empowered to handle it, and trusting that it will all work out.
I use the word AFTER to remind me of the pathway to flow.
Coco Chanel always inspires me. She says, “Don’t spend time beating on a wall hoping to transform it into a door.” Flow is going to the door.
with love + light,
Yesterday, dinner was over, kids in bed, Thanksgiving was awesome, and I had free time. But, I was also cranky - not wanting to prep for tomorrow, unable to unwind, a bit agitated.
Then reviewing the prior week I saw I had not taken self care time. I had exercised, I ate well, but I had not spent time with myself.
Self care is a ritual of renewal. It renews your stamina, your patience, your focus, your drive. When you are busy it is easy to overlook, it goes unnoticed. But once there is a quiet moment, the feeling of unrest comes to the surface.
For physical exhaustion you need to sleep, for mental and emotional exhaustion the rest which restores is self care.
Self Care 101
For me, I decided to blow out my hair, give myself a facial and pedicure. I felt very calm and zen at the end. Better yet, I woke up feeling really pulled together. And although the morning was rushed, I feel good and clear because through self care I renewed the space and energy to take care of everyone else.
This December schedule in time for self care. You don't need to spend money or have a lot of time. Regularly 10-15 minutes of caring for yourself, focusing on you is all you need to end December and greet 2019 glowing.
Meditation, journaling, self reflection, and all spiritual practices are much easier to do daily if you create sacred space to do so. It is the spot set apart for you to engage in deepening your spirit, centering yourself, and grounding - your clarity spot.
When the kids were little it was a struggle to find time for myself to be. However, the daily practice of sitting and reconnecting with yourself and the power beyond you is what keeps you calm, happy, and energized. At that time, I had a chair and a candle in the living room. When I lit the candle, the kids knew mom was taking a 10 minute time out. Now the kids are bigger, I enjoy more private corner of my bedroom for myself.
How to Set Up Your Clarity Spot:
Find a place in your home where you feel comfortable. You want to be able to unwind here, not a spot where you feel on display or your guard needs to be up. Think of the place you feel happiest or most relaxed.
Add something to make it special and denote that this is a space set apart: a candle, pictures of those you love, a special book, journal, a plant or flowers. My favorite way of creating this space is looking around the house for my favorite things or meaningful items and using those for my clarity space.
What you place there can change based on your mood, goals, or the time of year. Mine changes throughout the year. I try to keep it visually aligned with my goals and how I want to use the space. I may add a shell I found at the beach to remind me to relax; pretty leaves the kids collect to take me back to my favorite place, the woods; or in spring a potted daffodil welcoming change. If I am working on a big project, I may put something there that reminds me of my “why” in doing the project.
I try my best to spend time in my clarity spot each day, even if it is only for a minute. Yesterday was hectic, so my time was spent there doing nothing, but taking in the love of the Universe with each breath.
Words to Live By
Don't wait for the world to change, change it yourself.