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Eating, Reading, Doing

9/5/2020

 
Ginger and turmeric are my staple as I head into fall.  As you get older, inflammation can wreak havoc on your body.  I am trying to sneak it in wherever possible to feel my best.  This Labor Day whip a Ginger Turmeric Mocktail for 2.
Ingredients: 
2 cups grapefruit juice
2 inches of ginger
1 inch of turmeric
Wildflower honey
Sparkling Water
Crushed ice

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  1. Grate ginger and turmeric in a pitcher and pour in grapefruit juice and 1 or 2 tablespoons honey. Mix with a wooden spoon and let juice sit for a few minutes to several hours in the refrigerator to allow the flavors to develop.
  2. Before serving, strain juice to remove pulp, ginger, and turmeric.  Add in sparkling water to top off and mellow the flavor.  Enjoy!
Reading
One of my favorite books of the summer was recommended by a client, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb.  It is about a therapist, her therapist, and the vicissitudes of modern life.  The book was engaging, vulnerable, and inspiring.  So much so, two other members of my family thoroughly enjoyed it.
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Doing
Dry brushing daily.  Dry brushing just feels good.  Right before getting into the shower, starting at my feet or fingertips, I take long strokes upward toward the torso.  Then circles at the belly, breast, and back.  Dead skin is gently removed, circulation improved, and your skin feels so soft afterwards. 

Happy Labor Day!
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Therapeutic Emotional Release

12/12/2019

 
Therapeutic Emotional Release is a technique I teach clients to process sorrow, grief, disappointment, anger, and injustice.

It is invaluable as a daily tool when dealing with loss - death, divorce, or big life change - trauma, or a build up of negative emotions.  It is also one of the maintenance tools I encourage and use to keep me emotionally clear and light.

Emotions are a necessary part of being human.  However, it is difficult to know what to do with our negative or darker feelings. If you are like me, you were taught to suppress them.  I cannot tell you how many times my father told me to stop crying, get over my anger, pick yourself up and keep going, or swallow my disappointment.  

Yet despite expert suppression and denial,  emotions did not dissipate. Instead they lodged themselves in my body.  They became a budding ulcer. Emotional suppression is one of the leading causes of stress related illnesses: heart disease, obesity, autoimmunity, insulin resistance, depression, insomnia, and digestive problems. We need to deal with our feelings.

Therapeutic Emotional Release is an easy-to-learn technique to release emotions from the body without losing it.  You can do it in a controlled, precise method.

The practice has three parts and should take anywhere from 5 to 15 minutes a day - you get to decide how much time to devote to it.
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Part 1: Decide what emotion you wish to work on releasing or what situation you want to address.  Write this down on a piece of paper you will discard once you are done. This part is short - 1 minute tops.  Whatever emotion or situation surfaces first is the one to deal with now.

Part 2: This section takes ⅔ to ¾ of the allotted time.  You are to embody the feeling. If it is sorrow or grief - cry, sob, rant, get on the floor, curl up into a ball.  Do what feels like sorrow or grief. The point is to allow your body to physical act the emotion - think modern dance.  

If the emotion is anger, you may scream, punch a punching bag, pound a pillow, jump on a trampoline, Allow the words, emotions, and energy to flow out of you in movement. The movement is essential because it is what dislodges and empties the emotions from the body - it is like flushing the toilet of anger, sadness, or grief.

Part 3: You cannot skip this part of the technique.  Without the third part, you no longer have Therapeutic Emotional Release.  It will not be effective without the third part.  

In the third part, you use your senses to bring pleasure to the body.  You can dance, you can eat something luscious like a strawberry or orange slowly, you can bathe, you can feel soft fabrics, you can run your fingers through your hair, you can sing - the point here is to do something pleasurable with your body that is also beautiful.  This third part is refilling you with good feelings and peace. After you flush out the emotion, it is important to refill the tank with clean water.

As you engage with this form of therapy, you will find yourself lighter, less reactive, and healthier.  You will also discover that negativity does not need to intrude on the rest of your day. There is time set aside to deal with what you are going through.  

If you have a large build up of emotion, I recommend daily practice of Therapeutic Emotional Release.  As your emotional septic tank gets emptied, you will need the technique less and less.  

I encourage you to commit to a 30 day practice if you have a significant loss or trauma.  Otherwise commit to using this practice once a week. It will transform your life.
Love,
Julia
xo

3 Habits of Connection

11/19/2019

 
Yesterday I attended a small gathering of people which allowed me to observe and test some of the practices I teach in coaching.

1. Attention changes interactions to connections. Eye contact is most effective when not only your eyes, but your attention is focused on the other person.  Attention is likely the most scarce resource in modern human interaction.  Talking to another while thinking about yourself or something else, blocks your ability to connect.  Placing all your attention on the other person allows you to see the next questions to ask, where they may be resistant, and gives them a subconscious feeling of being seen. 

In last nights event, the deepest connections where made by focused attention and those conversations flowed without awkward pauses. 

2. Authenticity can include challenge.  When seeking true connection with another being authentic is key, but so is challenge.  We all enjoy agreeable people, but those who never introduce an different viewpoint or disagreement are more difficult to connect with because they do not demonstrate individuality or how they are unique. When you speak with people be yourself, but also do not be afraid to challenge them.

3. Ask questions.  Observing those who talked about themselves mostly with those who asked frequent questions, especially follow up questions - the conversations liberally sprinkled with questions definitely allowed the participants to learn more about each other and deeper discovery.   Also, throughout the conversations with questions the participants exhibited more open body language.

To learn more about how you can optimize your ability to connect with others to make your life and their life better, join me in a coaching session.  To learn more click here.

Tap into happy

8/1/2019

 
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I just got back from Paris as many of you know. It is my happy place. Every time I travel there I wish I could bottle up that feeling of Paris so that I can have access to it at all times. 

In actually, I can. You can also tap into the energy of your happy places and happy times. What’s more, is that this practice does not only help you feel happier in the present, but it creates more happiness in your life.

Here's the method. For me to access the me in Paris energy, I open myself to imagining myself in Paris. I imagine the beautiful scenery, the yummy food, sitting in a cafe, the casual interactions people have. The imagining is important because the mind is the point of access to the energy of Paris. It is the instrument I can use to tap into that energy which is easier because it is a place I have already experienced.
When I access Paris energy I feel calm and peaceful; I feel happy and free. The more I do this kind of daydreaming, the more I get use to or accustom to the feeling of being calm and peaceful. In reality, I am not tuning into Paris, but I am actually tuning into the vibration of happiness. 
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As this becomes my habit of tuning into happiness, then in my day to day life I start looking for more of that experience. It changes my perspective, what I notice, and what I am concentrating on. I get used to the Paris feeling, and then tune myself to things of similar frequency.

So when you daydream about your happy place or time, you too are tuning into a vibration of happiness and well being. You begin to shift your mind into a place of peace and tranquility. You feel more deeply the feeling of freedom happiness gives. Habitually experiencing the feeling of happiness will draw more happy experiences and create more happiness within you because you are shifting your own consciousness towards happiness. 

This is not hard work. You simply need to allow yourself to daydream. You can do this while brushing your teeth. It does not require much from you, but allows you to create a better life for yourself.

Love,
Julia
xo


P.S. For more steps and tools specific to you, feel free to reach out.



Feminine List Making

5/29/2019

 
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You are at a smorgasbord plate in hand.  You circle the offerings taking a little bit this and a little of that. You return to your seat with a plate full of yummy possibilities. What do you eat first?

The food that most excites you.

Now take a piece a paper. Draw a circle. This is your plate. It represents a period of time - a day or a week. Within the circle write down all the things you have to do. Take a look at it. Now do the thing you want to do most in the circle. When you finish that, do the next thing you want to do most.  Continue like this.

Also, on your smorgasbord plate, sometimes you select things and only eat half of them before tasting something else. Or, perhaps, you decide something on the plate isn’t really for you - you leave it on the plate.

Now allow yourself to move through your circle like that plate. Some things you will complete, others you will do part of and then switch to a different activity; some you will realize are not for you.

I call this feminine list making. You have structure, but fluidity within the structure. I’ve been using this method and it amazes me how productive I am with it AND how much I enjoy my days.

The circle feels good as a gentle boundary that I can expand and contract as I feel. The choice aspect allows we to move through the list based on what is exciting me most at the moment. By doing the thing that would give me the most joy at the moment, I use positive motivation to get things done, and build up energy throughout the day as opposed to leaking energy into "eating my frog first."

With the freedom and fluidly to move in and out of tasks based on my joy, I get a lot done in a day.

My circle has helped me to enjoy the rush and the activities. It feels more like water moving as opposed to digging myself out of a mountain of work. I highly recommend it!!

For those with questions of how to use this in a work or school environment, for items that have a deadline or that I must produce for others, I note it, but continue to move within those expectations to where my joy is.  And everything gets done, faster than you’d imagine.

If you notice that a particular item is repeatedly left in the circle, it means it is something you don’t want to eat just like when you leave food on your smorgasbord plate.  That’s okay. It’s time to let that item go or get creative. The smorgasbord analogy is good here. What are all the options for dealing with something that isn’t appetizing to you?

Love,
Julia
xo

Unblocking

5/22/2019

 
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Here is my technique for unblock beliefs that are keeping me stuck or hampering my progress. It is very simple, always works, and requires little effort from you. All that is necessary is a willingness to release beliefs which are impeding your progress, repetition when necessary, pen, and paper.

The Release Technique

I write down the belief or beliefs that I am holding which are not helping me move positively. This I do anywhere. I keep it as simple as I can. I write whatever comes to mind no matter how irrelevant or unimportant it seems.

A belief is simply an idea.  An idea someone crafted because it worked for them. It made sense to the creator of the idea. In some cases the idea is enshrined as a cultural norm, familial expectation, social attitude, or the rule of a particular group. But, in its essence, it is simply an idea.

An idea that worked for someone else in their particular situation does not mean it works for you. Even an idea that worked for you, may not continuing working for you. So instead of seeing a belief or idea as a rock which is unchangeable, think of it more as water: it can shift and change. Beliefs are fluid.

I then look at each idea and I cross it out. Crossing it out signals to my consciousness that I don’t need that idea anymore. For stubborn beliefs, sometimes I have to keep writing them down and keep crossing them out until I feel the belief loosening and drifting away.  

My father had told me many things I couldn’t do. They were all beliefs from his perspective and experience, crafted to protect me and him too. Many simply stopped working for me - he is quite old fashioned. So, I crossed them out. I have done many of his "you can'ts."

This is a way to open yourself that doesn’t require a lot of work because it shifts you internally. As your thoughts about yourself and what's possible changes, your actions change. Your energy changes, and it opens up more space for you to grow.

In my practice, I work on energetic changes because they are the ones that help you grow with grace and as much ease as possible. By changing in this way, the path to your goals is smoother and attainable.

Love,
Julia
​xo

Being at ease with hunger

5/10/2019

 
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Hunger can be a scary sensation. By scary I mean unfamiliar. Just like in other areas of life, when something is unfamiliar to us we can perceive it as scary or something that needs immediate correction or escape. Hunger is something you can sit with for a bit. Through it we learn, most things can be sat with longer than we think.  

It is useful to meditate on that idea because much of our stuffing of emotions and food is literally an attempt to not experience the discomfort of sitting with our emotions. Yet, only by allowing the discomfort to wash over us do we get the opportunity to digest and understand what our emotions are telling us. And, by pushing them away, we miss seeing the beautiful wave as feelings come and go.

With hunger, by giving ourselves food at the first hunger pang we don't get to know if the hunger is temporary, a proxy for something else, or passing. Not knowing the source leads to overeating and missing the opportunity to know ourselves more deeply. 

However, if you look at the scary hunger pangs, situations, or emotions as simply something unfamiliar, they become things you can get look at and explore. You can practice being with the feeling to find out what is underneath it. By exploring our hunger, we learn what we really need. By exploring our emotions, we discover what they are telling us.  

Hunger is a great opportunity for self growth in many areas. The next time you are hungry accept the invitation of observe and explore yourself, then eat.

with love + light,
Julia

What are you birthing?

5/8/2019

 
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We are constantly birthing. Birthing is creating. It could be a profession, an education, yourself, a relationship, a service, a home, a garden, whatever you are creating, you are birthing.  

Birthing consists of three stages: conception of the idea, the gestation, and the emergence into reality. Each has its process. I use the word process intentionally to underscore that in manifesting a desire it is an intentional unfolding as opposed to forced action.

To manifest a desire, or birth it, you essentially want to expand into some area of experience. First to do so, you allow yourself the space. In the body, the uterus is set aside as the space. If you want to create something big, you have to make space for it - mental, physical, and time.

Physical space is sometimes needed. If you want to begin painting, but every space of your house is occupied. The making space could be clearing out the garage or guest room.

Mental space is cultivated within meditation, journaling, and learning. Visualizations are perfect for this.

As we nurture our desire we give attention to it. Attention can be looking for others who have achieved what we want. Seeing is believing. Seeing another’s success signals to you, you can get there too, especially if this person has a story similar to yours.  

Attention can be baby steps to find out more or experience part of what you want. If you want to go back to grad school, that could be taking one class or going to a lecture series.  

As we nurture the desire, it grows and will require more space to develop.  As the desire grows, it slowly becomes more real to us as we start to see it beginning to manifest. In this stage, the inertia of the desire carries energy which will make it easier to create the space for it. It’s as if the desire gets ignited and the original fanning has created a strong fire.

From here just like pregnancy, we continue to give more attention and space to our creation so that it naturally unfolds.  Yet, unlike pregnancy, there is no due date. We can create in ease when we allow the process to take its course.

If there is something you wish to birth for yourself, be patient with the process, look for people as examples who are farther along the journey, and begin to take steps to experience parts of your desire now.

Peace With You

4/16/2019

 
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Sometimes we don’t feel the way we want to feel or the way we think we should feel.  Maybe we are in a place we don’t like, we don’t feel movement in our life, or things aren’t turning out the way we want. We all want to be happy and feel aliveness. The path to that place is not fighting or resisting your feelings in this moment.

Yet, how do I get rid of a feeling I don’t like? I say to you, you do not need to get rid of the feeling. If you feel, for example, guilty sometimes, simply acknowledge there is part of you that feels this way. The best way to change is to not push against what you don’t want.

But to be accepting of who you are at the moment

It is you. It is right to say to yourself, “I just don’t feel good. I feel bad right now. I feel guilty right now. I feel a mixture  of emotions. I feel love, but I also feel dislike and I feel dis-ease and I feel discomfort with my own emotions, AND I can accept myself for the moment.”

This is not to say you must stay in a situation, but you can accept that you don’t feel good at the moment. And, you choose to love yourself anyway.

When we push away our negative feelings or chastise ourselves for them it creates a sense of self flagellation. We engage in self talk or actions which say: I am not worthy, everything I do is wrong.

But, that is not really a good way to approach life because actually by accepting this part of you where it is now, it can come into cooperation with you to make the changes in your life you want.

It is like with any other person, if you want to make change together, you cannot just keep beating them up.  You cannot say to them “You should know better. You’re so stupid. You never learn. I just don’t like you.” If you treat another person like that, you would very much be aware that they are not going to like you and they are not going to cooperate with you.  

That makes logical sense when we frame it in relation to others. However, what happens is that we do this to ourselves. If we feel a kind of guilt, disappointment, or shame, we may very often self flagellate ourselves through variety of means. Here goes again the negative self talk or doing something on the outside to sabotage or punish ourselves. We treat ourselves like this and expect happiness and cooperation which isn’t possible when we are beating ourselves up.

So, pause. Whatever method you use to self flagellate, be aware that you are doing it.  This awareness combined with the accepting of yourself described earlier, puts you in a place where your ego will slowly loosen its grip on you because it will no longer be under attack.

Making peace within, in this way, will allow you to feel a little bit more free to shift and change.  The changes will not happen overnight, but little by little as you accept and love yourself in whatever feeling you’re in, one little bit at a time you will see changes in your behavior and life.
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Love,
Julia
xo

P.S. Begin a dynamic relationship with your own life by acceptance and cooperation within you.

The Personal Checkin

1/22/2019

 
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Learning to hear your body’s messages can be tricky when we have gotten out of the habit of listening to ourselves.  In adulthood, we care for so many and have so many to answer to that we lose accountability to our own bodies.

In my health journey, many people have given me all kinds of advice - well-intentioned most of the time.  Yet, what works for them may not work for me and vice versa. Being in touch with my own body helps me to know when to push, when to rest, when fatigue or sickness is starting, what my sensitivities are.

Many clients come to me unable to hear what the body is saying or what their intuition is saying.  As the first step to greater intimacy with yourself, start asking yourself throughout the day what you want.

I adopted a practice several years ago of asking questions addressed to my body constantly: what do you want to wear today? What do you want for breakfast? Do you want to walk to work or take the subway?  Do you want to call this person back now or a little later? Do you want to read or listen to music? Do you like spinning or do you do it because your best friend does? Do you think spending money on flowers is a waste or is that another’s idea?

After about a month of this, you start to hear your own voice very clearly.  Knowing your voice is the first step in reclaiming yourself.

with love + light,
​Julia

What is flow?

11/29/2018

 
What does it mean to be in flow? How do I get into flow?

Flow is allowing yourself and the energy or happenings around you to be cooperative. It is acknowledging everything as it is now, knowing you are empowered to handle it, and trusting that it will all work out.

I use the word AFTER to remind me of the pathway to flow.
  1. Acknowledgment
  2. Faith
  3. Truth
  4. Empowerment
  5. Receiving

AFTER explained:
  1. Acknowledge.  Acknowledgement is like saying “I see you.”  Awareness allows you to choose your path. Notice what is happening, what is challenging you, or what is being presented to you.
  2. Faith.  Believe that the Universe has you.  At times this belief can get shaky. I find a mantra key to reinforcing me when my faith wavers.  My mantra is “It will all work out.” (and it always does).
  3. Truth. To flow, we need to know our truth.  What is our gut telling us is the next right action?  Get quiet and listen to your gut - that’s your higher self, the inner voice, the connection with God. Your gut will tell you when to let go, redirect, wait, or take action.
  4. Empowerment.  Choice is key to flow. We swim with life.  We act to get ourselves where and what we want. In flow, we direct our actions and thoughts in the direction we want to grow and move.
  5. Receiving. Open yourself to acting on inspiration, accepting help, allowing things to work themselves out. You do your part, let the Universe do everything else.

Coco Chanel always inspires me.  She says, “Don’t spend time beating on a wall hoping to transform it into a door.” Flow is going to the door.  

with love + light,
Julia

Awakening Not Midlife Crisis

9/19/2017

 
A woman stopped by jolie the other day to share her art.  Having been a psychologist for many years - in her awakening, she decided to devote herself to creative, uplifting art for others.  Loving to serve, but her practice of psychology no longer had her jumping out of the bed in the morning.
I loved how she purposely referred to the change, not as mid-life crisis, but as awakening.
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Awakening is the courage to realize something isn’t working the way it use to.  We are all alive, changing and evolving.  It doesn’t make sense that everything we chose 10, 15, 20 years ago still is going to work for us.  

As many of you know, I grew up in the Bible belt and Sunday School meant memorizing Bible verses.  One of my favorites, I carry with me still is “I came that you may have life more abundantly.”

Abundant.  That is what life is.  

Boring. Dull. Draining. Exhausting. Stale. Do not describe abundance nor should it describe life.  When we find ourselves not jumping out of bed, not truly happy, it’s time for awakening.

Awaken to what your soul truly wants.  What is it that makes you feel alive? What do you want life to feel like? How would you live your day?  
It’s a tricky question sometimes.

You don’t know what you want? Maybe you haven’t even allowed yourself to consider the question. Maybe you can’t see any options due to work, kids, education.  Or perhaps, you feel past decisions set you on a road you can’t exit.
Awakening begins with listening.  

So here’s how we can listen:

Sit in a quiet place.  Invite clarity and light in.  Begin to focus on your breath. Continue the focus on your breath until you feel quiet inside.  Now ask yourself the following questions. 
Where am I now? Write down where you are physically, emotionally, financially, spiritually - positive and negative.  

Then make your wish list - here’s where I want to be. What would life look like? Think of the feeling you want to have.

From here create a no thank you list of any negative feelings, negative situations, unhealthy relationships or coping habits you have.

The keeper list is last.  List all you want to keep what makes you feel good, alive, and fills you.

Now from listening to action.  Create more of what’s on the keeper list and where you want to be.  In meditation, ask how -  the answers will slowly come.  
Begin to house clean your life by looking at the no-thank-you list.  What can you release now? What can you replace in terms of more positive habits or thoughts? What can you experience less?
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Begin baby steps to unwind yourself from the negative thoughts, relationships, habits and situations that keep you stuck.

Love,
Julia xo

It's Not Your Fault

8/22/2017

 
When I am disappointed by an outcome, the first thing I ask is why.  I start examining could I have done something different, did I fail to do something I should have.  I was on that hamster wheel this morning while talking with my girlfriend. 
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She stopped me in my tracks.  She reminded me that the universe has my back -- always!  You don’t know what is on the other side of the issue.  Maybe the minor disappointment is protecting you from something that could really be bad.  
In my life, in our lives, the universe is always looking out for our good when we trust ourselves to divine goodness.  What appears a setback isn’t.  When a relationship doesn’t turn out how we expected, perhaps that relationship wasn’t for our highest good.  The job we wanted falls through, there is something better waiting for you.  You have a health challenge, it’s an opportunity to redirect, accept love from others, and sink into the now.
There is an important lesson here: you are not wrong - it is not your fault. Instead of turning inward and blaming ourselves, stop the self flagellation. Look for the lesson, the opportunity, the gift. 

Shoedog - the Incredible Story of Nike

8/14/2017

 
Nike.  I read Shoedog this summer. Take it with you on vacation this August. It is amazing!  There is so much to be gleaned about how to live and create from Phil Knight’s story of the creation of Nike, it’s on my calendar to read the book every year.
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Nike almost died many times. Knight comments that he knew if Nike did fail, it wasn’t going to be because they did not take big risks and do everything possible. He was going to do everything to fight to the death.  Never did he leave the fate of Nike to the market, circumstances, or other people’s rules.

That’s empowerment in a nutshell. Keep acting. When you hit a dead end, look for options. It doesn’t mean we won’t fail or mess up, but we get to decide what will be.

Empowerment is about not being a victim. A victim gives their power to another. We allow circumstances, beliefs, people, past wrongs to define and limit us.  We do not need to blame situations or others for our present state.  
You are an amazing, powerful person. With a little action and a shift in mindset, you can create a new reality.

Empowerment is recognizing things can be different. Then doing something to move the needle towards what we want.

What happens when you don’t know what you want, but know what you have isn’t working?  The answers are not always evident. I share with you an exercise I do frequently when I’m stuck, not sure what to do next, or have that vague feeling of uncertainty.

The Practice
Consider the situation or challenge you’re facing. Create three list.

List everything you know.

List everything you don’t know.

List questions you can ask.  They can directed to God, a particular person, or just questions you need answers to.

Taking inventory gives us clarity.  Writing the question list - at least 50 - forces us to access our imaginations and observe.  Also, by formulating the questions we prepare ourselves to see answers, signs, and clues to the next step. When you get the next step, take it.  If something, inspires you, explore it more deeply.

Clarity often comes in the process of doing. There are no mistakes - only opportunities to learn.  Take them and use them.
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Be Unshakeable is about creating the tools to move forward.  Finding out how to not be a victim.

Love,
Julia xo

Do You Need Wellness Coaching?

2/9/2017

 
Do you want to finally do it?
A coach can light the fire underneath you to motivate, guide, and cheer you on to achieving your goal.  They are the bridge and sherpa to discover the best version of  YOU

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Our daily life forces us to skimp on ourselves.  We are asked to do more with less rest and sleep.  We are constantly exposed to conflicting health reports and eating right can be confusing.  Often we are so busy we have little time to focus on ourselves even when we need to.

Wellness coaching is a bridge and a sherpa.  A good wellness coach provides support for necessary health changes that a healthcare professional does not have time or information to personally navigate with you.  Coaching can bridge that gap helping you transform.

You have a life goal - a mountain to climb. The most reliable way to the top is with a skilled sherpa.  I view health and life coaching as being a sherpa guiding people to find their inner compass, helping them find the fastest, most expedient route, and looking out to prevent pitfalls and potential dangers.

Good coaching should:
  1. Be tailor fit for you. The first step is always getting to know you: your lifestyle, likes and dislikes, challenges, perceived limitations, goals.
  2. Break your long term goal into smaller achievable goals.  The small goals are like a day’s journey.  This helps you celebrate your victories and not be discouraged along the way.
  3. Coaching helps to map out the scope of your goal.  A coach will help you discover solutions, practices, and new habits to make reaching your goal easier.
  4. Listen to you.
  5. Be your biggest advocate.  Our job is to see your victories, to build upon what you are doing right.  By continued right action any goal is achievable no matter how many bumps in the road there are.

As a coach, I fulfill many roles for people.  I love helping people actually do it.  My approach is very personal and creative.  Clients who think something won’t work for them are surprised by the solutions and change that happens.  This February we are offering coaching packages of 10 sessions for $1000.  If you want to explore your goal with us, please email [email protected].  If you are working on something specific we don’t specialize in, we are happy to connect you with someone who does.

with love and gratitude,
Julia

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2017 the Year of Refinement

1/1/2017

 
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Come on a journey with me this year.  I declare my mission to live 2017 differently.  I sometimes have a false belief or expectation that causes me to live on this planet as if everything is going to be perfect, but this is a planet of refinement. Refinement means people, myself included, are going to make mistakes; people are going to not do the right thing; not live up to expectations. But, it also means that is okay.  Refinement is growth; it's sorting out what's working and what's not; it's letting go when a thought pattern is holding us back or keeping us stuck.

This morning I went for a walk in the woods and then directly to church.  Ordinarily, I'd change my clothes, but didn't have time.  I was very tempted to keep my coat on during Mass because everyone was dressed up, except for me.  My internal guide said no - take it off.  It's what I'm working on--accepting what is every moment and not judging myself.  Who cares if I have hiking boots and workout clothes on? If they do, why should I care?  Plus, it's all in my head, it's my desire to be perfect, to meet expectations.  I'm not perfect, I misjudged my time, but I am here where I want to be.

The advantages to living on the planet of refinement are threefold:
1. We get to set any goal we want and work for it.  We fall off the diet/workout wagon, we blow up at our partner, we screw up a project: learn from the experience and continue; no time for stewing.  2017 we say no to self doubt, self criticism, and negativity.

2. Mistakes are good. Ben Franklin said, "I haven't failed.  I've had 10,000 ideas that didn't work."  Thomas Edison said, "Of the 200 light bulbs that didn't work, every failure told me something I was able to incorporate into the next attempt."  Carry that perspective into 2017.

3. Focus on you. Our happiness has a ripple effect as well as our energy when we are depleted. When my kids were little, I called 5:00pm the bewitching hour. I'm exhausted, my patience is spent, I'm trying to make dinner; and somehow the kids sense it and chaos ensues.  Finally, I started taking a mommy time out around 4:30 and things smoothed out.  To meet the challenges on this planet of refinement we must take care of ourselves. 


The first leg of this journey of refinement is 100 days of self care.  Why self care?  Honestly, it's because there is so much I want to do this year and I will get easily burned out if I don't.  The less personal reason is how well you take care of yourself is a clear indicator of how positive you feel, your self confidence, and gives you so much energy.  When you feel good, you treat others better too.

Yay for 2017! I am full of excitement.  

Love,
Julia

Three Questions to Answer Before 2017

12/20/2016

 
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Although I appear extremely calm, I am a totally type A personality.  Goals are my thing. The end of the year is really exciting for me. I LOVE reflecting and evaluating and then setting really juicy goals for the year to come.  But, my mantra is to know where you want to go, you need to spend a little time evaluating where you are now.  I ask myself three questions.

  1. What did I do this year that I should personally celebrate? This is really important because we want to end and begin the year with positive energy and be uplifted by celebrating all the little and big victories of the year. Too often we get bogged down in mistakes. As our mom’s encouraged us when we were little: pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and keep moving. Positive energy attracts more positivity; negative energy attracts more of what we don’t want. Leave the mistakes behind and move forward.
  2. What part or aspect of myself wants to be expressed or developed in the new year? We should be always growing, changing, and evolving. There are new parts of me bubbling up.  There are things I learned in the past year I wish to deepen. 2017 will present opportunities which I want to embrace. The same is true for you. Maybe you are a great writer and haven’t been using that gift. Start journaling or writing articles or spend 15 minutes a day writing the book you’ve always dreamed up.  
  3. What change would I like to see? I want to stay current and dynamic. I love to garden and I quickly noticed that either things are growing or they are dying- nothing is static. In addition, we want to embrace change, not have it thrown at us by “teaching life moments.”  Approaching change from a place of strength is a luxury we should afford ourselves.  Don’t wait till the doctor tells you, you have to eat health to do it.

After I answer these question, I share my insights with a friend. Accountability is always a good thing when goal setting. Perhaps you and a friend could do your year end evaluation; then meet for lunch to share and encourage each other. For accountability, here are my answers:
  1. Celebrate: opening Jolie; bonding summer vacation with the family; Irina misses me more than she imagined now that she’s at college; I finished my advanced energy training; I worked out consistently, especially during the busy times; I enjoyed my garden more than worked in it.
  2. Part of me to be developed: boldness. I want to take more risks and get “comfortable with being uncomfortable” as they say. I want to put myself in social situations that stretch me and give myself some physical workout challenges.
  3. Change to be seen: I want to appreciate more the process of working toward a goal.  I’m really impatient at times. I think I’ll do that by celebrating each step more.

I would love to know about your year.  Please share here, on Facebook, or come to Jolie.

With love and gratitude,
Julia
xo​

Now

11/9/2016

 
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Eckhart Tolle's, The Power of Now, focuses us on where our power lies.  Our generative ability is in the present moment.  The past is gone and the future is a mystery.  Where we have influence, where we can change, where we can make a difference is in the moment that exists for us now. The present moment is our touchpoint to ourselves, the Divine, and each other.  We experience God from where we are--yesterday's experience no longer exist and what we experience tomorrow will be in the now moment.  The same holds true for our relationship with others and the work we do for ourselves.

Deep within us, we know this is true.  However, it is a challenge to our will and strength to focus our concentration on the present action. It is easier to put off to tomorrow the work of today.  It is easier to dwell on past mistakes, than to act this very moment. But, right now is all we have so procrastination does not serve us.  When we say I'll eat clean tomorrow, I'll begin to relax tomorrow, I'll enjoy my partner tomorrow--tomorrow never comes in the way we want it to be. We find ourselves in the same place or even more behind when it comes to neglect of self or others.

Rejuvenation, growth, fun, opportunity is to be enjoyed now.  Take a relationship that is strained. Someone does something kind to another. Being in the now means taking the kindness offered in the moment.  The now is not recalling all the past failings or speculating that this change will not last.  To live whole, we take each gesture, each moment for what it is without putting layers of hurt or expectation on top of it.  In this way, we live whole, in the present.

The practice of living in the now is clearly illuminated by Tolle.  For those that want to dive in deep, read his book and you will not be disappointed. It is at Jolie, and a book I constantly recommend.  A baby step, however, is to begin with mindfulness.  Mindfulness can be cultivated in very simple ways.  Merely pausing before going through a doorway can bring you into the moment.  When speaking with someone look them in the eyes.  Practice meditation.  Move slowly when possible. All of this will connect mind, body, and spirit to the present moment.

I encourage you to practice on your own and in community with Jolie.

Live whole,
​Julia

Ask

3/31/2016

 
Women are stereotyped as being very communal; however, we are often reticent to ask for help.  The reasons women don't ask are numerous: fear of no; not wanting to appear naive or weak; maintaining privacy; shame; feeling like I should be able to do this.

By not asking we cut ourselves off.  Asking for what we want expands us in many ways.
  • we permit ourselves to receive love and attention from others. 
  • in vulnerability, we give another a chance to grow closer to us and it increases the intimacy in our relationships.
  • you allow your wants, needs, and desires be heard.
  • you let yourself to be served.  There is humility in realizing you do not have to do everything yourself.
  • it is a pleasure to help another person. It creates a feeling of worthiness in the giver and receiver.

Exercise your ability to ask by asking someone to do something for you for the purpose of exercising your asking muscle.

Power of Imagination

3/29/2016

 
Children spend a lot of time at play.  Imagination is a large part of children's play whether it is pretending that the toy car is on a road picking up passengers or they are in the bike race of their lives.  As we become adults, we put aside play and settle into more serious pursuits.

The cost of abandoning play is that life becomes too serious.  Reintroduce play into your world with your imagination.  When you find your thoughts wandering into "what if" territory, follow them and see where they take you.  Oftentimes, you will be amazed where you end up.  

Some of my most genius decisions and best inspiration has come from imagining my life differently than it is now.  When I lived in the house before the one I live in now, I use to imagine having windows all over my house and french doors that let out into the garden from the back of the house.  I wanted to see my garden from every room in my house.  When I started looking for a house, I found to my amazement just that house I had imagined at the perfect price. I knew it was for me.

Let your mind loose and see what happens.

    Words to Live By

    I am not a heroine, but I have chosen the person I want to be.
    ​Coco Chanel

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